Are you ready for the truth? Are you ready to tell your girlfriend that she is a little too flirty or tell your mother that she's smothering you? Truth...it's THAT very thing that keeps us away from a lot of what we say we want out of relationships with our significant others...and our friends.
Telling the "honest to goodness" truth is one of THE hardest things to do. Now, some of you are sitting in front of your screen, reading this and saying to yourself that you're always honest. You never lie outright nor by omission. I would like to remind you of your mortality and ask you to be honest with yourself before you continue reading this post...or it will just be a waste of your time.
Let me elaborate. I'm not suggesting that you become reckless and tactless with the truth. I'm merely suggesting that you be as honest with those around you as you possibly can be...even to the point of discomfort. When you're THAT honest, you'll discover one of two things. Either the person/people accept, appreciate and love you for who and what you are or...they don't.
It's cliche but, the truth does free you. How many of you have a man that has never seen you without make-up, weave, nails, etc? How many of you talk about your friends behind their backs because you don't want to offend them by telling them the truth to their faces? Booo on that! Booo! At the end of the day, you're just hiding. Come out into the light and enjoy life with your truth flag flying high.
Do I lie? Hell yeah, I lie. But, I realize that a lot of my mistakes and set backs have come from not saying how I felt, not being honest with myself or those that I love.
Here are some of my tough truths that I had to come to grips with:
1. I am a plus size woman. I wish I wasn't. But, the truth is I'm lazy and I procrastinate when it comes to exercise.
2. I have hair on my chin. Other people can see it. It's embarrassing. Truth is: it comes from PCOS (poly cystic ovarian syndrome)...a weight related female issue with the ovaries and all that jazz. Yes, I know about laser hair removal...not the point here.
3. I have always wondered why my husband, who in my opinion is very handsome, would select me. I always felt like he could pull a chick that was doing it way more than me. As a result, I'm insecure when we're in public because I'm assuming that other people are thinking the same thing. Truth is, I never got over being the dark skinned girl who watched her light skinned peers be fawned over by all the boys.
4. I'm scared that people are going to think that I'm not smart so, I try to learn as much as I can so that I'm never caught looking like the dumb chick. Truth is: I want to be viewed as an intelligent woman and not being viewed that way scares me.
5. I'm not a Christian. It is awkward and uncomfortable to have to justify to people why I'm not one and why I'm not raising my son to be one. I think that he should grow up and figure out his faith. If I tell him what to believe in, that in my opinion is not true faith. Truth is: being raised as a Christian and living in the Bible Belt put a bad taste in my mouth for religion. Not to mention the religious studies course I took in undergrad...my eyes are open to a lot.
6. I'm an Admin not because that's all I'm capable of doing but, because I had a plan to complete my Education degree and teach - and this job was low key enough for me to do that and work full time. Now that I'm not going to teach...I feel like people look down on me for what I do. Truth is: I have another plan. But, I must admit my corporate safety net feels great.
I hope my honesty can help you find and accept your own truths.
Telling the "honest to goodness" truth is one of THE hardest things to do. Now, some of you are sitting in front of your screen, reading this and saying to yourself that you're always honest. You never lie outright nor by omission. I would like to remind you of your mortality and ask you to be honest with yourself before you continue reading this post...or it will just be a waste of your time.
Let me elaborate. I'm not suggesting that you become reckless and tactless with the truth. I'm merely suggesting that you be as honest with those around you as you possibly can be...even to the point of discomfort. When you're THAT honest, you'll discover one of two things. Either the person/people accept, appreciate and love you for who and what you are or...they don't.
It's cliche but, the truth does free you. How many of you have a man that has never seen you without make-up, weave, nails, etc? How many of you talk about your friends behind their backs because you don't want to offend them by telling them the truth to their faces? Booo on that! Booo! At the end of the day, you're just hiding. Come out into the light and enjoy life with your truth flag flying high.
Do I lie? Hell yeah, I lie. But, I realize that a lot of my mistakes and set backs have come from not saying how I felt, not being honest with myself or those that I love.
Here are some of my tough truths that I had to come to grips with:
1. I am a plus size woman. I wish I wasn't. But, the truth is I'm lazy and I procrastinate when it comes to exercise.
2. I have hair on my chin. Other people can see it. It's embarrassing. Truth is: it comes from PCOS (poly cystic ovarian syndrome)...a weight related female issue with the ovaries and all that jazz. Yes, I know about laser hair removal...not the point here.
3. I have always wondered why my husband, who in my opinion is very handsome, would select me. I always felt like he could pull a chick that was doing it way more than me. As a result, I'm insecure when we're in public because I'm assuming that other people are thinking the same thing. Truth is, I never got over being the dark skinned girl who watched her light skinned peers be fawned over by all the boys.
4. I'm scared that people are going to think that I'm not smart so, I try to learn as much as I can so that I'm never caught looking like the dumb chick. Truth is: I want to be viewed as an intelligent woman and not being viewed that way scares me.
5. I'm not a Christian. It is awkward and uncomfortable to have to justify to people why I'm not one and why I'm not raising my son to be one. I think that he should grow up and figure out his faith. If I tell him what to believe in, that in my opinion is not true faith. Truth is: being raised as a Christian and living in the Bible Belt put a bad taste in my mouth for religion. Not to mention the religious studies course I took in undergrad...my eyes are open to a lot.
6. I'm an Admin not because that's all I'm capable of doing but, because I had a plan to complete my Education degree and teach - and this job was low key enough for me to do that and work full time. Now that I'm not going to teach...I feel like people look down on me for what I do. Truth is: I have another plan. But, I must admit my corporate safety net feels great.
I hope my honesty can help you find and accept your own truths.
