Hey y'all! Happy Holidays! I hope you're all well, happy and full of cheer! I haven't been blogging because of THIS issue...it came back! Sigh... Moving on...
I started thinking about my life and why I'm not in the place I'd like to be financially, physically, creatively or professionally. Initially, I started making excuses for myself. Well, I made some credit mistakes when I was younger! I got married young. I had a baby! I have PCOS and Fibroids. I don't have time to work out. I'm earning a degree I don't plan to use. Blah to the blah and the blah...
After I finished making all those excuses, I realized that they were indeed a bunch of excuses! People leap over seemingly insurmountable road blocks in life ALL THE TIME! Why should I be the exception? I started to look at myself and speak some truths.
1. I PROCRASTINATE!: I don't know if you're the kind of a person that completes tasks and projects well in advance with enough cushion time left to bake a nice pie but, I'm not like that. I love to make lists and create calendars only to be derailed by the smallest distraction such as a pretty bird or a "profound" fortune cookie message <---- yeah, I'm serious. Thus, forcing me to complete my project/assignment/goal/task by the skin of my teeth or if it's not life or death - not at all.
2. I'M LAZY!: I like being comfortable and if something that I already don't want to do requires me to relinquish some of my comforts, then I don't do it. Organize my craft studio? Nope...I'm lazy. Exercise? Fuck No...I'm lazy! Wash my hair? Nah...lazy. You get the point.
3. I'M ENVIOUS!: I spend a lot of time coveting things that other folks have. I spend so much time staring into their lane, that I'm swerving out of my own! You never know what someone else had to do to earn their income, home, car, blog, maid, chef, personal concierge...etc. So, ditch the envy in favor of "Becoming Inspired". Envy is ugly. Inspiration is unicorn tears mixed with rainbow skittles.
4. I DON'T RECOGNIZE MY PROGRESS: Ever meet someone that's hard to compliment? If you say they're really creative, they say "Thanks girl but, I'm not quite an artist yet" or your compliment someone on their home and they say "Oh thanks but, it's not all that". Well, that's me. I feel uncomfortable accepting praise. I also have a hard time improving upon the positive things I've done because I'm always comparing myself, and looking for personal flaws.
5. I DON'T LIKE SACRIFICE: Guess what? You've got to sacrifice time, money, energy and whatever else to reach your goals some times. I don't like to do that. I like instant gratification. Gimmie money, gimmie clothes, gimmie acclaim and notoriety NOW! Well guess what? That's not good for managing money and living a financially sound life. My husband pays the bills - and I'm glad.
So, in the event that you skimmed down to this point, I'm unsuccessful in life because I'm a lazy, envious, procrastinator that can't take a compliment. This may seem harsh but, I truly think that these are my chief impediments in life. So, since I know what my vices are, I'm going to start working on them.
Success is in the eye of the beholder. HOWEVER, I think it's important to know your limitations so that you have a realistic idea of how to reach your goals.
What about you? Do you know what's holding you back? Or did you over come your own issues to become successful? Tell me all about it!
I started thinking about my life and why I'm not in the place I'd like to be financially, physically, creatively or professionally. Initially, I started making excuses for myself. Well, I made some credit mistakes when I was younger! I got married young. I had a baby! I have PCOS and Fibroids. I don't have time to work out. I'm earning a degree I don't plan to use. Blah to the blah and the blah...
After I finished making all those excuses, I realized that they were indeed a bunch of excuses! People leap over seemingly insurmountable road blocks in life ALL THE TIME! Why should I be the exception? I started to look at myself and speak some truths.
1. I PROCRASTINATE!: I don't know if you're the kind of a person that completes tasks and projects well in advance with enough cushion time left to bake a nice pie but, I'm not like that. I love to make lists and create calendars only to be derailed by the smallest distraction such as a pretty bird or a "profound" fortune cookie message <---- yeah, I'm serious. Thus, forcing me to complete my project/assignment/goal/task by the skin of my teeth or if it's not life or death - not at all.
2. I'M LAZY!: I like being comfortable and if something that I already don't want to do requires me to relinquish some of my comforts, then I don't do it. Organize my craft studio? Nope...I'm lazy. Exercise? Fuck No...I'm lazy! Wash my hair? Nah...lazy. You get the point.
3. I'M ENVIOUS!: I spend a lot of time coveting things that other folks have. I spend so much time staring into their lane, that I'm swerving out of my own! You never know what someone else had to do to earn their income, home, car, blog, maid, chef, personal concierge...etc. So, ditch the envy in favor of "Becoming Inspired". Envy is ugly. Inspiration is unicorn tears mixed with rainbow skittles.
4. I DON'T RECOGNIZE MY PROGRESS: Ever meet someone that's hard to compliment? If you say they're really creative, they say "Thanks girl but, I'm not quite an artist yet" or your compliment someone on their home and they say "Oh thanks but, it's not all that". Well, that's me. I feel uncomfortable accepting praise. I also have a hard time improving upon the positive things I've done because I'm always comparing myself, and looking for personal flaws.
5. I DON'T LIKE SACRIFICE: Guess what? You've got to sacrifice time, money, energy and whatever else to reach your goals some times. I don't like to do that. I like instant gratification. Gimmie money, gimmie clothes, gimmie acclaim and notoriety NOW! Well guess what? That's not good for managing money and living a financially sound life. My husband pays the bills - and I'm glad.
So, in the event that you skimmed down to this point, I'm unsuccessful in life because I'm a lazy, envious, procrastinator that can't take a compliment. This may seem harsh but, I truly think that these are my chief impediments in life. So, since I know what my vices are, I'm going to start working on them.
Success is in the eye of the beholder. HOWEVER, I think it's important to know your limitations so that you have a realistic idea of how to reach your goals.
What about you? Do you know what's holding you back? Or did you over come your own issues to become successful? Tell me all about it!
Can I say that I like this post? I did not become successful because I did not finish my degree in Criminal Justice, but I did complete my CS (common sense)degree, raised a Nice Young Man, earned a decent living until I was forced out of the workplace. Now I am working on being Just a Happy Soul and living each day with less. Less money & less stress. Not everyone is cut out to be the School Principal, some of us are content with being the substitute Teacher who will never be Teacher of the Year. Take a leap of faith and LOVE Rochelle! HAPPY HOLIDAYS!
ReplyDeleteMan, I thought I wrote this. We are >>HERE<<!!!! Except for the envious part. My mother told me, from very young, not to envy people for what they have as you never know how they got it and what they have to do to keep it. This has turned out soooo true many times. What we think somethimes, just isn't.
ReplyDeleteSay WHET???? U R speaking right at meeee... I'm 1st class procrastinator & LAZY AF!!!!! Shhh... yep, I said it... folks, think I have it all together... WHATEVER!!!! lol
ReplyDeleteImma get my LIFE in 2014 and try to do BETTER!!!!!
YES! Let's get our lives TOGETHER! WE can do it!
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